3 Warning Signs
- Avoiding the person that you need to have the conversation with.
- Irritated or anxious when the person comes into your presence.
- Nothing positive to say about the individual when they are mentioned.
Relationships are important. One of the most difficult things about relationships is communication. Having difficult conversations is very hard and most people tend to avoid them. One of the best thing to do is communicate honestly all the time. Honest communication keeps you from getting to the place where you have to have the “hard” conversations.
This is something I personally try to do in all my relationships. I make every attempt to communicate openly and honestly at all times. I try to resolve issues with others quickly. I don’t just let things roll over if I feel something needs to be addressed. If you say something I don’t like, I like to get clarity right then. I have just found that addressing issues immediately in a non-confrontational way is the best way to keep things from going too far. If it is just foolish, I just let that go and keep no count of it. However, if I think it could be something that could cause me to be offended, I go ahead and address. I call it keeping “short accounts.” Things are not stacking up against that person!
Let me give you an example, if someone addresses me in a manner I don’t like; I typically pull them to the side IMMEDIATELY and have a conversation. I clear the air, so there is no time for me to meditate on it and have hard feelings. It also helps to make them aware of their actions so they don’t continue do the same thing.
If you address issues immediately, then you won’t have to have many “hard” conversations. Hard conversations often have to take place because there has been a pattern of behaviors that have not been addressed. So think about the 3 warning signs and evaluate your life. Are there any conversations you need to have with anyone?
In the next Blog post I will give you tips on how to have the conversation.
Let me know if you need relationship coaching. I would love to work with you!